Best Gifts for Bat Mitzvah Girls in 2018

Mazel tov ! Best Gifts for a Bat or

Bas Mitzvah


Oh, to have a daughter.

To have a Jewish daughter.

OK, we’re not Rabbis. But to have a Jewish daughter, speaking as Jewish mothers, is a flowering of joy.

Judaism often is accused of being patriarchal.  

Again, we don’t need to go there. Think Ruth. Think Esther. In some places of engaged Jewishness these days, we observe a ceremony for a new baby girl called Simchat Bat – “the joy of the daughter.” This mystery, this midnight, this crescent moon, this unfolding rose, this girl-child.


It’s a new world, and your daughter will not spend her life in the shadows, subordinate to a man, most likely. So by the time she’s 12, 13, she’s heading out into the huge world with a mind of her own. This can be an exhilarating, intimidating experience for the young lady—and a bittersweet realization for her parents. Sunrise, sunset…


Planning her Bat or Bas therefore will require communication with the daughter who is being called to the Law.

Today’s Bas or Bat is usually a pretty light-hearted affair. Can we say, it’s all about the socks? We don’t make or sell socks, but we’ve gotten a few invitations to a Bat lately that include a pair of plushy socks with “gripper dots” (which sort of feel like gummi bears!). The reason for the socks: so ladies can slip off their heels once the party really starts to rock.




We’ve got so many really exquisite pieces—especially pendants and bracelets– that are perfect for the cherished Bat-Girl (those décor themes really can get out of hand!), that we recommend you simply call us.  A very dainty, feminine gold pendant, whether a Mogan David, Hamsa, or eye, on a delicate chain, is always appropriate for a young lady taking this transformational life-step. We have many variations, and can guide you to something that is perfect for the Bat Mitzvah Girl. A few things we love for the BMG and possibly her mother and other matriarchs: delicate diamond pave Star pendant on fine gold chain, Jewish Star pave diamonds set in 14k gold, or the same Magen David in sterling silver, perhaps even a pendant with LOVE.

star of david jewelry

And here’s the bigger gifting situation: if you’re the parent of the BMG, you will be throwing a heck of a party. When planning, keep in mind the number 18.  This numeral—Chet = 8, Yud =10, so 8 + 10 = 18, and 18 represents Chai, to Life!. Multiples of 18, whether it’s the number of guests, the dollar-amount of a cash gift (18, 36, 54, 72—add zeros at will!), and so on, will all bring your BMG lots of mazel.


Also, here’s this: it’s possible, even likely, that some of the guests at the Bat will not be Jewish. Besties bond across all boundaries today! With this possibility in mind, we suggest guest favors that aren’t explicitly religious in theme. We really love our 3-d squared heart pendant on a bead chain. For a slightly hipper gift for young ladies, check out our hand-beaded bracelets in silver, yellow or rose gold.  Just warning you – lots of moms actually covet this edgy yet classic piece for themselves — so better have a few extra on hand! 


Ditto for our long strands of protective evil eyes, eye-stations set on fine chain, in shades of green, blue, and other colors (eye85) – you can’t go wrong, in case there are a few ladies who may not have been on the original list but who absolutely deserve the star treatment on the day of the Bat.


We have many lovely options for buying in multiples. Some are fit for a princess.  Some are a little more casual. Connect with us at 818 882 9030 or online at, and whether you’re getting guest-prezzies for 18 or 180, we’ll guide you to something that’s really perfect for a specific Jewish daughter and her circle of besties as she makes this powerful and poignant step.

What is a Bar or Bat Mitzvah?

What is a Bar or Bat Mitzvah?

  • Jewish coming of age ceremony
  • Boys and girls are typically age 13 and considered Jewish adults.
  • Bat is for girls and Bar is for boys
  • Study and preparation allow one to read from the Torah 
  • A mitzah is a commandment.  A Bar or Bat Mitzvah is ultimately continuing one’s religious and spiritual experience such as their ancestors before them

Wearing the Hebrew Biblical Prayer Jewelry

Hebrew Prayer Jewelry

Every religion has a prayer, “Thee Prayer.”  In Judaism, it is the Shema Israel Prayer found in the Book of Deuteronomy 6:4.  It serves as the centerpiece of both the morning and evening prayers, and the first verse translates as follows: “Hear, O Israel: the LORD Our God, the LORD is One.”  


As children, we are taught this prayer and no matter where you go in the world, no matter how religious you are, or aren’t, you know this prayer.  It is almost what unites us, to put it lightly, when we don’t share the same language or customs.  


I remember many times when showing this bracelet to someone and I say it is Hebrew, and the customer cannot read the language and are not religious, immediately ask is it the Shema Prayer?  And each person then tells a story with their memories of the prayer.  It is a touching moment for all, a moment we love to hear about when selling jewelry.  The stories, the feelings, the connection made again through a prayer to our fellow people around the world.

Just having the bracelet close to your soul, the words of the Hebrew prayer near you is a feeling that one cannot describe.  It grounds you, gives you inspiration and fills your soul.  These are all comments that our customers relay to us time after time.


There are many gorgeous prayer bracelets at Alef Bet Jewelry.  Take a peek, and let us know the feelings that they create when you wear them.



Chai– Not the Tea but a Symbol

We know, you order Chai masala tea at your local Indian restaurant.  It is sweet, creamy and oh-so-delicious.  This is also what comes up when you do a google search for Chai.

Happened to us, so you aren’t the only one out there.




A chai is actually a combination of 2 Hebrew letters: chet and yud.  Pronounced “hi” or if you want to fake an accent, had a hard ch to it.  There’s no need to do that though. chai letters in hebrew


So, how come it is common to wear these two letters and not two other random Hebrew ones?  This is really a two-part answer.


Well, there is the mystical tradition, called gematria, that assigns a numerological value to Hebrew letters.  The letter chet has a value of 8, since it is the 8th letter in the alphabet, and the yud is the 10th.  So that equals 18.  And 18 is now a lucky number because of these two letters combined together and their value.  You’ll often find Jewish people gift in increments of 18, 36, 72…. you can do the math from there.

The second reason comes from the word Chayim…meaning  life.  You’ve heard it in modern day songs, from the Black Eyed Peas, I Gotta Feeling, when they yell out “L’Chayim!”  To life!  Ok, now that Fiddler on the Roof song “L’chayim, L’chayim to life!” will play in your head.


In a nut shell, Chai, the combination of two letters is for a long, prosperous and healthy life.

Alef Bet Jewelry has it set with diamonds and 14k gold or in sterling silver on lucky red string bracelets.  No matter the reason, gifting something with a Chai or in increments of 18 is a good thing, a positive thing, a lucky thing.

Chai symbol jewelry

What’s In a Name?

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Hebrew name engraved on a 14k gold necklace



Really, what is in a name?  Such an easy title, such a complex idea!


We all need to be called something, we all have a name.  When my son says to me, “that boy with long hair,” I always answer back, “that kid’s mom didn’t name him the boy with the long hair…”  We all have a name.  So, where do they come from?  Sure, we can choose a name off the top 100 baby name list, but that isn’t all that is involved when you give someone an identity.  History and thought goes into that name as well.

I know when my three kids were born, we had to choose a letter of the alphabet that was after a loved one.  My relatives came from Russia, making us Ashkenazic so we tend to name after a loved one.  I was told that it is a way of keeping their memory alive, that their soul is still with us.  Then my Sephardic-Israeli husband said they name in honor of a loved one, usually a grandparent.  And so the choices begin, but really each choice is wrapped around tradition, even if we aren’t 100% aware of it.


Why tradition?  Well, Jewish people living in non-Jewish lands need a Hebrew name, a name that is preferably easy to pronounce.  That is the way it always has been, but did you know that in the 12th century the Rabbis actually passed a Rabbinical ruling requiring Jews to have a Hebrew name.  Take Yitzhak, not so easy, but Isaac…simple.  Some parents have gone the route, like I did, and given names that work for both like Adam or Sarah.  Others use the first letter to match up:  Nechama and Nikki, others choose a Hebrew name after a relative and a secular name that they just flat out love with no connection at all.  But still, Jewish tradition is there in that name.


All in all, maintaining tradition and learning about the history of our ancestors is what keeps Judaism alive.  The lifecycle event which starts at birth with the naming of a child continues to the next event, their Bat/Bar Mitzvah and eventually to marriage… all falling back on tradition.  The entire history of the Jewish people is recreated and continued in a simple thing…. a name.


A wonderful gift, tying in tradition and celebration, is gifting a piece of jewelry with one’s Hebrew name.  Choose a Hebrew font perhaps with a date to remember the occasion.  Alternatively, do a Hebrew name in English font.  The choice is yours, what matters is continuing tradition.  Celebrate lifecycle events, take pride in your heritage.

Letters or initials to show the pride in your name
English letter initial necklace in 14k gold.


See the choices of name necklaces online at Alef Bet Jewelry by Paula.  We will help you spell your name in Hebrew, just let us know!

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Diamond Cuffs

Looking for a fresh take on initial jewelry? Alef Bet’s diamond initial bangle bracelets in 14k gold are custom designed with your own initials, your spouse’s or your children’s.  Also is perfect bridesmaid gift, graduation or a just-because. 

Whether worn alone or layered with other pieces, the simplicity of this bracelet is perfect for anyone looking for a modern way to wear a sentimental piece of jewelry.


diamond initial cuff bracelet
initials with diamonds in a 14k gold cuff

Personalize Yourself with Initial Pendants


Diamond Initial Letter Necklaces
Initial letters in Diamonds


Need a gift that everyone will love?  Try an initial letter necklace set with full cut diamonds and set in sterling silver.  Super cute, these initials won’t overpower the neckline, and look terrific layered with other chains.


Suggested gift giving ideas: birthdays, baby showers, bridesmaid, hostess, bat mitzvah, valentine’s day, teacher gifts, graduations, baby naming, thank you, etc.

Any age, any reason….all the more reason to purchase and give the perfect gift!



Cycle of Life

Every life has a cycle.  Judaism for sure has a cycle of life we follow: birth, bris, bat mitzvah……  Ok freeze!  That is where is I am now in life!  My oldest daughter is having her bat mitzvah this weekend.

Since Alef Bet Jewelry is a family owned business, we are going to be taking the week of off to prepare.  Will be posting pictures as I order them from the photographer.  Maybe I should give you a head’s up that for my own wedding we ordered the album on our 10th anniversary.

Mazel Tov to us!


Grinch That Stole the Bat Mitzvah?

I was a guest blogger on Your Jewish Speech this week. 

This week Bat Mitzvah Mom, Alissa, is our guest blogger.


A mother and a daughter’s idea of a Bat Mitzvah seems to be two different things.  Huh?  At least in my family it is!  You see I’m a Jewish mom who used to teach 6th grade Hebrew school for goodness sake.  For years I taught with the aim to inspire Bnei Mitzvah to continue their Jewish heritage and to be proud of their religion at the time of their coming of age.  The truth is, I am not so anti-the-ceremony as I am anti the big party.

We are Reform Jews in Los Angeles, so a Bat-Mitzvah is totally ordinary in our community.  All girls read from the Torah and give a speech the exact same as a boy of the age of 13.  All of my daughter’s friends are having a bat/bar mitzvah, and the friends are helping one another celebrate by first attending the ceremony and after the party.  Now, I am ready to sit up on the bima and smile and brag about my daughter’s love, I mean LOVE of Judaism!  I am ready to write a speech about her life and read it to the congregation.  But then, the celebration……..  I get squeamish even thinking about it.

My real plan was to go to Israel for three glorious weeks in the winter.  To have a small celebration there with the Israeli side of the family, and do a little dinner there, a little dancing, we’ll be at last with the family for an extended period of time and of course not for pure happy-celebrations.  However, my daughter says, “NO!” She prefers a party for the friends and family.  I am in a real dilemma, and can’t wrap my head around the idea of entertaining for five hours instead of spending three weeks abroad.

With my inner-issues of not wanting to celebrate with others, I am a little resentful of the whole idea now.  I do not particularly like spending money on other people, just to hear them say, “the music was too loud… the food was tasteless… the decorations were boring.”  I wonder if all parents feel this way?  I doubt it, since many mothers speak highly of the entire planning process.  I have yet to hear anyone say they don’t want to plan and entertain others.  I think I am the only one, the grinch who stole the Bat Mitzvah?