Best Gifts for Bat Mitzvah Girls in 2018

Mazel tov ! Best Gifts for a Bat or

Bas Mitzvah


Oh, to have a daughter.

To have a Jewish daughter.

OK, we’re not Rabbis. But to have a Jewish daughter, speaking as Jewish mothers, is a flowering of joy.

Judaism often is accused of being patriarchal.  

Again, we don’t need to go there. Think Ruth. Think Esther. In some places of engaged Jewishness these days, we observe a ceremony for a new baby girl called Simchat Bat – “the joy of the daughter.” This mystery, this midnight, this crescent moon, this unfolding rose, this girl-child.


It’s a new world, and your daughter will not spend her life in the shadows, subordinate to a man, most likely. So by the time she’s 12, 13, she’s heading out into the huge world with a mind of her own. This can be an exhilarating, intimidating experience for the young lady—and a bittersweet realization for her parents. Sunrise, sunset…


Planning her Bat or Bas therefore will require communication with the daughter who is being called to the Law.

Today’s Bas or Bat is usually a pretty light-hearted affair. Can we say, it’s all about the socks? We don’t make or sell socks, but we’ve gotten a few invitations to a Bat lately that include a pair of plushy socks with “gripper dots” (which sort of feel like gummi bears!). The reason for the socks: so ladies can slip off their heels once the party really starts to rock.




We’ve got so many really exquisite pieces—especially pendants and bracelets– that are perfect for the cherished Bat-Girl (those décor themes really can get out of hand!), that we recommend you simply call us.  A very dainty, feminine gold pendant, whether a Mogan David, Hamsa, or eye, on a delicate chain, is always appropriate for a young lady taking this transformational life-step. We have many variations, and can guide you to something that is perfect for the Bat Mitzvah Girl. A few things we love for the BMG and possibly her mother and other matriarchs: delicate diamond pave Star pendant on fine gold chain, Jewish Star pave diamonds set in 14k gold, or the same Magen David in sterling silver, perhaps even a pendant with LOVE.

star of david jewelry

And here’s the bigger gifting situation: if you’re the parent of the BMG, you will be throwing a heck of a party. When planning, keep in mind the number 18.  This numeral—Chet = 8, Yud =10, so 8 + 10 = 18, and 18 represents Chai, to Life!. Multiples of 18, whether it’s the number of guests, the dollar-amount of a cash gift (18, 36, 54, 72—add zeros at will!), and so on, will all bring your BMG lots of mazel.


Also, here’s this: it’s possible, even likely, that some of the guests at the Bat will not be Jewish. Besties bond across all boundaries today! With this possibility in mind, we suggest guest favors that aren’t explicitly religious in theme. We really love our 3-d squared heart pendant on a bead chain. For a slightly hipper gift for young ladies, check out our hand-beaded bracelets in silver, yellow or rose gold.  Just warning you – lots of moms actually covet this edgy yet classic piece for themselves — so better have a few extra on hand! 


Ditto for our long strands of protective evil eyes, eye-stations set on fine chain, in shades of green, blue, and other colors (eye85) – you can’t go wrong, in case there are a few ladies who may not have been on the original list but who absolutely deserve the star treatment on the day of the Bat.


We have many lovely options for buying in multiples. Some are fit for a princess.  Some are a little more casual. Connect with us at 818 882 9030 or online at, and whether you’re getting guest-prezzies for 18 or 180, we’ll guide you to something that’s really perfect for a specific Jewish daughter and her circle of besties as she makes this powerful and poignant step.

It’s ALL About the Choker

Processed with VSCO with s3 preset

The choker necklace is one of Fall 2016’s biggest trends.

They were key accessories in the nineties, and they are making a comeback alongside backpacks, bandanas, bombers and cropped tops. Some of the world’s supermodels, like Kendall Jenner and Gigi Hadid, have rocked these necklaces in every way, whether at the Met Ball or walking the streets of LA.

Not only are they super chic but can be worn any way.

Chokers are the perfect accessory and a stand-out piece to include in any outfit. Now, a great outfit in itself can go a long way, the best thing you can do for any outfit is spice it up with a good accessory. You see, it makes a statement.   The best way, of course, is to try a trend and decide for yourself if it works for you. Here are some ways we have paired our chokers:

Processed with VSCO with s3 preset




Processed with VSCO with s3 preset


Processed with VSCO with s3 preset


You can see these online here.  As always, Alef Bet’s designs come with a full money back guarantee.  We’d love to see how you decide to wear this trend.  Let us know on Instagram!

Travel Safe | Jewish ways of Protection and Travel


It’s summer, and your schedule is probably packed with travel: weddings, family reunions, class reunions, and hopefully some gorgeous vacation-time to restore and refresh you.

Travel itself is dehydrating. Whether you’re flying first-class or crossing the country in a beat-up van (both can be fun, in their different ways), you’ll find your sleep schedule interrupted, perhaps a bit of anxiety as you wait for your suitcase on the luggage carousel at the airport, pass painstakingly through security and customs, the occasional frustration if your flight is delayed, etc.

Fear not! Wearing an evil eye amulet or one of our Hamsa designs cannot guarantee that your baggage won’t get temporarily misplaced in Cleveland. But, as we always say, it couldn’t hurt. Hamsa Design with Pearls

Wearing a piece of “protective” jewelry is like carrying-on a little peace of mind. We also like to take a bit of ribbon and tie a Hamsa or “eye” inside our suitcases when we travel. A reader of this blog recently even suggested that we create a Hamsa-shaped luggage tag, and we’re considering it.

Now, back to the hand-symbolism of the Hamsa itself. We have to re-blog ourselves. Our last blog on the origins of the Hamsa contained a rather esoteric illustration of the Aaronic blessing.

But we left out some of the more important aspects of this hand-position which is familiar to many Jews worldwide, as part of worship. This blessing-gesture forms the hands into the shape of the Hebrew letter “Shin”.

Shin in Hebrew
Shin in Hebrew

This letter appears on the mezuzahs which sanctify and guard Jewish homes, and call to mind the names of Almighty God, Shaddai, and the Shechinah, the Divine Presence and Sabbath Queen. Of course, thousands of scholars have written thousands of pages about the implications of all of this, over the past few centuries. Just a little light reading for the beach this summer.

An aspect of this blessing, offered to the congregation by the priestly Kohanim, involves an emanation of powerful light through the gesture—a light which is so powerful that we are commanded to look away.

Does this light emanate from a galaxy far, far away? Wait a minute….yes, there is a similarity to the famous “Vulcan salute”, created by actor Leonard Nimoy for his half-Vulcan character, the unflappable Mr.Spock.

Mr. Spock

Nimoy was inspired by the Aaronic blessing which he observed as a child in Temple. Below, from his autobiography, I Am Spock”:

“The special moment when the Kohanim blessed the assembly moved me deeply, for it possessed a great sense of magic and theatricality… I had heard that this indwelling Spirit of God was too powerful, too beautiful, too awesome for any mortal to look upon and survive, and so I obediently covered my face with my hands. But of course, I had to peek.”

Even if you’re not a Trekkie, travel safely this summer—and live long and prosper.

TheJMom– Jewish Matching Mom’s Way

Taken from blog:

If you are lucky enough to belong to a multi-generational family (or community), you are probably aware that attitudes about love and marriage have changed significantly within the last century, and even within the past few decades. This is especially true in culturally traditional and religiously observant communities, including within our Jewish community.

In Grandma’s day, and certainly before Grandma’s day, few people married for romantic “love”. Marriages were arranged. The basis for these arrangements: social, local and familial requirements.

One traditional purpose of marriage was to continue family legacies. For instance, the continuation of a family-owned business.

The Yiddish word Beshert, which translates to “what is meant to be”, or “as God intended,” used to describe a good match based on the values above. The term still popular today, now refers to the person who will compliment you perfectly.

Today, some people date and marry on the basis of passion and attraction, (along with a whole other host of qualities important to each individual) rather than because of an arranged marriage.

Is this always wise? We’ll leave that open for discussion. But as designers who are in the business of creating keepsake and heirloom jewelry, we do think that there is a bit of mystery at the heart of love, even hip, cool, modern love.

Observant Jews agree that abiding by the laws of Torah, and by honoring our cultural traditions, we are on the right path. On the subject of love, the reasoning goes like this: when we’re doing the right things, to the best of our knowledge and ability, Mr. Right (or Ms. Right) will find us. Because it’s Beshert. It’s serendipity. It’s in the cards.

This makes the entire process of matchmaking seem less random, less blind. We aren’t so much searching as we are simply revealing ourselves to be who we truly are, radiating our truth. And our Beshert, when doing the same, will be revealed to us. Now, THAT’s a match made in heaven!

As with all things, a bit of nice jewelry never hurt. We create lots of designs around the idea of love. Can we promise that wearing this jewelry will help you or your child find his or her Beshert? Probably not, but it couldn’t hurt!

Sterling silver Love Always NecklaceLike what you see? Want to win one of these pieces? Enter yourself to win a beautiful piece of Jewelry (pictured at right), resembling the love that you have with your family and the love you wish for your children to carry on for many generations.

You may enter into the sweepstakes three different ways:

  1. “Like” TheJMom on Facebook and e-mail us at danielle@thejmom.comto let us know.
  2. “Like” AlefBet on Facebook and e-mail us at danielle@thejmom.comto let us know.
  3. Or, if you are not currently a member of, sign up for the site and e-mail us at to let us know.


The AlefBet Jewelry sweepstakes will start on July 6th and end on July 31st. Follow our status updates as two winners will be announced on our Facebook pages on August 1st!


  1. You may enter up to three times, one entry per way.
  2. Your entry will only be recognized if you send an e-mail to to let us know.
  3. All entries must be in by July 31st at midnight.

We wish you luck in love and jewelry!

To visit the entire Judaica Jewelry site by Paula, click here.